The Spouse Palace sits directly opposite the Life Palace, representing the partner's traits, your romantic attitude, and your相处 pattern. The major-star combination inside reflects what kind of person you are drawn to, what role you habitually play in relationships, and where you tend to get stuck. It points to both "who I admire" and "who I am in a relationship."
Zi Wei, Tian Fu: tend to be drawn to steady, responsible, decisive people, and lean toward the "leader" role in relationships.
Tan Lang: value feeling and novelty, easily moved by charismatic, changeable people; the relationship needs ongoing freshness.
Po Jun: love bravely and hate fiercely, unafraid of change; relationships often go through big ups and rebuilds.
Tian Tong: gentle, home-oriented, seek relaxed companionship; prize comfort and stability in getting along.
Many people panic when they see "sha stars" (negative stars) in the Spouse Palace, but there is no need. Sha stars point more to friction points in a relationship — different communication rhythms, or more磨合 needed — rather than a sentence of "marital trouble." Star combinations reveal tendencies, not fixed outcomes.
For instance, a Spouse Palace with sha stars may mean the relationship, once磨合d, becomes very resilient; while one that is "too smooth" may drift into blandness for lack of tension. The key is how you use the information.
① See your attraction type. Repeatedly falling for a certain type often maps to the Spouse Palace's energy structure. Seeing it helps avoid a few rounds of "clearly wrong but repeatedly falling in."
② See your relationship role. Do you habitually give, lead, or withdraw? The Spouse Palace gives clues to your automatic reactions.
③ See your relationship lesson. Where you easily get stuck is where you grow. Use the palace info as material for self-awareness, not as a standard to judge your partner.
Reading the Spouse Palace alone is one-sided. Combined with the Fortune Palace (your true source of inner happiness) and the Travel Palace (the image you show outward), you often get a fuller picture: who you are outside relationships, and what state you switch into inside them.
On XinYou, you can use the Zi Wei Dou Shu charting tool to generate the twelve palaces in one click, locate the Spouse Palace's stars and transformations, and compare with the Life and Fortune palaces as a reference for understanding your relationship pattern.